More Sissy Boys

The CNN Anderson Cooper special on “The Sissy Boy Experiment” continues to inspire blog posts in both the gay and trans blogosphere.

At Joe.My.God, an open thread features hundreds of comments from gay men about their gender non-conformity of childhood.

Meanwhile, on Mercedes Allen’s blog, Marti Abernathy clarifies that in fact, Ken Zucker of CAMH is still conducting reparative therapy on gender non-conforming children.

I highly recommend Rottnek’s Sissies & Tomboys for further reading on gender non-conformity and GIDc.

More soon too on the complicated interplay of transphobia, homophobia, & (what I like to call) gender panic.

Orlando Arrests People Feeding the Hungry

It’s not an Onion headline; it’s the despicable results of a city ordinance in Orlando that makes it illegal to deliver or serve food in such a way that will attract 25 people or more within an area of Orlando within 2 miles of City Hall – without a permit.

But the organization Food Not Bombs has been feeding people in these areas years before this ordinance was passed in 2006, and has applied for, and been rejected for, a permit.

The arrests of people attempting to serve food as they have in the past have been primarily members of the group Food Not Bombs, who have been sharing food in these areas since 2005.

 

What the hell is this country coming to when volunteers, on their own dime, want to feed hungry people and are arrested for it?

Here’s a list of Orlando officials to contact about these heartless arrests. Whatever happened to the right to free assembly? Does it say anything about the Constitution about people not being allowed to assemble if there is food involved?

Honestly, my mind is blown by this news. We have got our heads up our asses in this country in ways that make me ashamed.

“Herbivore” Men

It’s something akin to metrosexualism, but in Japan, there is a male gender called “herbivore men”. The term was coined based on the play between “flesh” and “sex” and “meat”.

Author and pop culture columnist Maki Fukasawa coined the term in 2006 in a series of articles on marketing to a younger generation of Japanese men. She used it to describe some men who she said were changing the country’s ideas about just what is — and isn’t — masculine.

“In Japan, sex is translated as ‘relationship in flesh,'” she said, “so I named those boys ‘herbivorous boys’ since they are not interested in flesh.”

We might use the term effete in English, but that might be a mistake because this term isn’t about men being feminine per se — it’s about them being less sexual, less lustful, or maybe even asexual. I’m sure it varies greatly depending on the “herbivorous” man in question.

There has always been a connection between meat-eating and passion, of course, as Graham well knew when he created Graham crackers – the intent of which was to curb lustfulness – but as someone who has recently returned to vegetarianism, I find the equation of sexless and meatless a little ridiculous, along the lines of thinking rhino’s horn will embolden erections.

In that same CNN article, the author also notes:

Typically, “herbivore men” are in their 20s and 30s, and believe that friendship without sex can exist between men and women, Fukasawa said.

Aside from the obvious heterosexism of that idea (assuming all men desire women, & vice versa) thats the When Harry Met Sally thesis all over again, isn’t it? It makes me tired.

I am very interested in separating out the various threads in this mishmosh of ideas. On the one side we’ve got desire, meat-eating, & masculinity; on the other, asexuality/low libido, vegetarianism, & femininity.

Which makes my brain go in about a million directions at once: yes, we could use more monkish men in the world, absolutely. But also: the whole dislike of virility/violence/masculinity kind of pisses me off, too.

Discuss.

“Curing” the Sissy: Anderson Cooper Tonight

Tonight, Anderson Cooper 360 is doing a show on the reparative therapy offered one male child to “cure” him of his effeminate behavior.

Box Turtle Bulletin has a complete breakdown of the events of Kirk’s life as well as information on the doctors who were responsible for this “therapy”.

Activist Abigail Jensen adds that she is upset “about the erasure, at least in the headlines of this & Anderson Cooper’s upcoming special report, of the fact that this story is as much about treating children who may be transsexual, as it is about children who may be gay.”

His brother Mark says the therapy “turned his light switch off”.

I fully expect more and more families will step forward about this kind of therapy as a result of this documentary, and I’m thankful to Anderson Cooper and team for doing it. This is NOT a historical issue; reparative therapy is still “offered” to gender variant children. For a more recent take, do read D. Scholinkski’s The Last Time I Wore a Dress

Seriously.

Despite all the jokes about Weiner’s penis, the whole thing kind of makes me sad. Not just because he lied & used bad judgement: you can’t follow politics for 12 minutes without running into that; shoot, you can’t live 12 years without running into that. It’s more that I wish we could talk about politics instead of morality in this country. Not because morality isn’t important – it is – but the older I get, the more exhausting it is to hear the rounds of moralizing by professed Christians (who seem to forget that whole “cast the first stone” business) and by non-Christians who are mostly only critical of the guy’s logistical failings.

Sexting, I fear, falls into a gray area for most (monogamous) couples. Maybe that’s the kind of thing more people should talk about. Honestly, the whole thing just makes me a little more tired and a little more sad.

Still, it’s not like he voted against his politics. I prefer liars over hypocrites, but maybe that’s just me. That is, there’s a huge difference for me in guys who vote against civil rights for LGBTQ people who then go off seeking out anonymous same sex sex in public bathrooms. Just sayin’.

So, politicians: don’t lie. As a general rule, it’s kind of up there with don’t invade Russia in winter.

Transvestic Disorder? Really?!

Yes, really. The proposed idea is for DSM V, the same book that wants to change Gender Identity Disorder to Gender Incongruence is also planning on changing Transvestic Fetishism to Transvestic Disorder. (You can see all the relevant proposed changes in a previous post.)

The entry in the current DSM on Transvestic Disorder, like the former entry on Transvestic Fetishism, is authored by Dr. Ray Blanchard of the Toronto Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (formerly known as the Clarke Institute). Blanchard has drawn outrage from the transcommunity for his defamatory theory of autogynephilia, asserting that all transsexual women who are not exclusively attracted to males are motivated to transition by self-obsessed sexual fetishism. He is canonizing this harmful stereotype of transsexual women in the DSM-5 by adding an autogynephilia specifier to the Transvestic Disorder diagnosis.

Worse yet, Blanchard has broadly expanded the diagnosis to implicate gender-nonconforming people of all sexes and all sexual orientations, even inventing an autoandrophilia specifier to smear transsexual men.

For those who don’t see why this is a problem: let me posit the idea that there is no such thing as cross-dressing. That is, you can’t wear/get turned on by clothes of the opposite sex is the sexes aren’t oppositional. That is, a guy can wear a skirt and then it’s a guy’s skirt, just as a woman’s jeans are just jeans.

Happy Graduation!

Today is Lawrence University’s Commencement, when several hundred seniors receive their degrees in tents set up on the main lawn of campus; faculty wear all their finery, and friends and family come to watch & celebrate. It’s a big day a crowning achievement, and for me, the first time I’m seeing a big group of students I’ve gotten to know over time graduate. I will no doubt get teary because I’m a sap like that. This is my 3rd in attendance.

The best news is that the one & only Russ Feingold is our commencement speaker, which is just too damn cool.

So congratulations, Lawrence seniors! Well done!

White House Staff: It Gets Better

For Pride month, the White House launched an LGBTQ website. How amazing is that? It’s nice to know that we, as a country, occasionally still do something that shows some leadership. Nutty.

I’m not sure what it is about this “It Gets Better” featuring White House staff, but something really struck me about it. Maybe the cultural & racial diversity. Maybe that they are not all in the entertainment industry, or academia, or other “safe” places for LGBTQ people.

I find it remarkable.

Not Tragic, Just Trans

It seems whenever there’s a profile or personal narrative of a trans person in mainstream media it has to be somehow tragic. And I’m so over it. Because I think we’re amazing.

What a cool and much overdue piece about being trans and not tragic. This kind of idea is what I was trying to get at years ago (7!) when I objected to – or suggested an addition to – the Transgender Day of Remembrance.

But no matter: I’m happy to see a trans person say it.