I found a few articles tonight about low male libido and low sex marriages and – for once! – some comments from wives who are living with husbands who have little to no interest in sex.
I thought this would be useful for all the wives out there who write to me about how their husbands never seduce them, who feel ugly or fat or rejected or not feminine enough because of it. We tend in the TG community to “blame” the transness for this stuff, but ladies – it’s not the transness. When you read these letters from wives, you’ll understand what I mean: they sound so much like yours.
There’s a list of possible causes for male low libido here.
There’s also some good advice for both people in a relationship plagued with low libido, but this one was the most appropriate, I thought, for the wives of CD/TGs.
Don’t blame yourself for his low libido. It has nothing to do with the way you look, or how much you weigh, or your sexual performance, etc.
…or how feminine you are or aren’t, I’d add. Words to live by, yes?