Five Questions With… Tasha

Another interview with a partner whose narrative is in Transgress Press’ Love, Always. 1. What didn’t you write about in your narrative but wish you had? I wish I had known at the beginning that they were going to discard… Continue Reading

Online Support Groups

My online group for trans partners via Yahoo Groups still exists, and is always taking on new members. You can find it here: It is open to *all* partners of trans people – male, female, genderqueer, queer, het, etc.… Continue Reading

ABC on Trans Couple Story

Somewhere in the last week’s insanity I did an interview with Susan James of about a recent article published in the Boston Globe by a journalist whose husband transitioned from male to female. It was a lovely interview, and… Continue Reading

Trans Partners: Come Out, Come Out, Wherever You Are

Hey, lovers of trans people! Come out about your desires today for National Coming Out Day! Celebrate the beauty of trans bodies and souls, no matter their shape or size or color. There’s not enough of us out. Here’s an… Continue Reading

Post Trans Post

Here’s a copy of a a guest bit I wrote recently for T-Central for a small series there on transitionn. Lots of the posts that appeared there were interesting, from FTM & MTF, a 17 year old & a 90… Continue Reading

Madison, WI: SOFFA Support Group Starting

It’s always so good to hear when another partner support group starts! Go Madison! Just to let you know there is a SOFFA support group starting in Madison. It will meet every other Tuesday evening, 7p-9p, beginning January 19. It… Continue Reading

Trans Partner Support Column

I was interviewed not long ago by Amanda Waldroupe as she was writing a column for just|out of Portland (OR) about the way in which partners of trans people need support and get or don’t get it. While numerous resources… Continue Reading

Dottie Laing – Already Missed

Allison Laing’s wife Dottie Laing died tonight after a long struggle with illness. She left this note: Celebrate my life! Please do not be sad. Remember me in fondness. I have enjoyed my life, and treasure my family and friends.… Continue Reading

From a Child of a Trans Parent

This is B.’s reaction to the Chloe Prince documentary that was on the other night. Since I’m a partner, & have a soapbox from which to talk about my reaction as a partner, I thought I’d open my blog to… Continue Reading

Alcohol Poisoning

I’ve been drinking. Sadly, it was a lot of the same old same old: cursory interest in parent, partner, & children. The kids were adorable. The wife was determined. The father was exhausted. Multiple shots and references to surgery, instead.… Continue Reading

Trans Documentary Drinking Game

In light of the documentary about Chloe Prince that will air tomorrow night, I thought we should all be prepared for what looks like it’s going to be a doozy of a predictable documentary. So, the rules, such as they… Continue Reading

CDM Leaves Tri-Ess

As of today, Chi Delta Mu, the Tri-Ess chapter of the tri-state area, voted to leave Tri-Ess and become an inclusive & independent trans group. At issue were the chapter’s non-compliance on three major required items: (1) that the local… Continue Reading


In response to this last post, I received this short email: “My Husband Betty: Love, Sex, and Life with a Crossdresser” This is where you loose me Helen. You say you don’t use words like “Husband or Wife”….but then you… Continue Reading

Gendered Words

We don’t use the words “husband” or “wife” because they’re gendered, but we don’t generally use “spouse” because it seems too clinical, or legal, & yet I wonder if it lacks warmth precisely because it’s not gendered.

Divorce Resources

Yes, it’s a depressing thought, but I’ve seen so many of them in the trans community over time that I thought I should share these two articles I found on the topic. One of called “What Every Married Woman Should… Continue Reading

Iran’s Revolutionary Women

Roger Cohen followed up his column mentioning the women of Iran with a column about them entirely: A friend told me he no longer recognizes his wife. She’d been of the reluctantly acquiescent school. Now, “She’s a revolutionary.” I followed… Continue Reading

TransOhio Conference 2009: August 14-16

I’ll be speaking at TransOhio’s annual conference this year, deliverying both a keynote and doing a workshop about sex & identity. When: August 14-16, 2009 Where: Columbus, Ohio What: Lots of cool workshops for trans people, their partners, & allies… Continue Reading

Blogging for LGBT Families Day!

Today’s the day! I’m blogging, as I have in years past. for LGBT families — who have, thankfully, seen some gains this year! I know plenty of my queerio friends are tired & frustrated with the whole push for same-sex… Continue Reading

Five News Stories

Fairfax High School elected a male student Prom Queen. Tom Ackerman, a gay man, has vowed to call his friends’ wives their girlfriends, because he’s decided his religious views don’t allow him to recognize opposite-sex marriage. The New Scientist tells… Continue Reading

Partner Protection for Wisconsin!

Please sign this petition in favor of domestic partner protections for Wisconsin! It looks like they will be voting on it toward the end of the week.