The Toe Rule for Allies

I’ve been working on trans issues as a non-trans person for long, long time, and there’s really one rule that I find the most useful. Not that I’ve always managed it, but still. Here’s the deal: when you step on… Continue Reading

#TDOR List?

Has anyone seen an updated list of names for this year’s TDOR? A few people have asked, and the “official” one stops listing people in March. Anyone?

WI Trans Bathroom Bill – Contact Your Legislators

AB 469 is back on the schedule, dammit. This is the bill that wants to undo local ordinances that will overturn local ordinances that allow trans students to use the correct bathroom. It’s been scheduled for a hearing next Thursday,… Continue Reading

Houston, We Have a Problem

An amazing non discrimination ordinance in Houston was just struck down due to a paid-for campaign that focused, once again, on fear mongering: that somehow laws that allow trans people to use public bathrooms are going to result in sexual… Continue Reading

Oh, Ms. Greer

I’ve been doing work with and for trans women for about 15 years now. Arguably, I have met more trans women than most people on this planet. Older transitioners, young transitioners, passing, non-passing, those who pursue medical options, those who… Continue Reading

WI Book Fest – Resources

As promised, a few of the resources I promised to people who came to the Love, Always reading yesterday at A Room of One’s Own. My online group for partners of trans people: Our online forum for trans people… Continue Reading

Transition: A Generation of Change

A couple of amazing students put this short clip together for a class that promotes media making in the service of community. I was honored to be a part of it, but the real props go to Rowan and her… Continue Reading

National Coming Out Day: For Those Not Out

The always awesome S. Bear Bergman put this up for National Coming Out Day, and I immediately loved it, and shared it, like you do. What surprised me was that a few people responded thinking it was sarcastic, not heartfelt.… Continue Reading

WI Bathroom Bill

Sadly, this transphobic bathroom stupidity has arrived at our doorstep, WI. It’s time to act. Here’s the MoveOn petition. Go sign it. Here’s a letter draft you can email to your representatives: I imagine you have heard of a bill… Continue Reading

WI Book Festival Reading of Love, Always

I’ll be reading from the Love, Always anthology with my friend Miriam Hall and another contributor, Shawnee Parens, on 10/24 at 3PM at A Room of One’s Own bookstore. Excited.

She’s The Woman I Married

“There is something star-crossed about trans couples sometimes,” Boyd says when I meet up with her a few days later. “I was very much in love with my husband, and I will always miss being married to that person. The… Continue Reading

Here from New York?

I was interviewed for an article titled “My Husband Is Now My Wife” for New York magazine recently, and while the online version isn’t up yet, the issue is out. So if you’ve shown up here as a result of… Continue Reading

U.S. Trans Survey (Closes 9/21)

If you haven’t yet taken NCTE’s current trans survey, get to it! It will close on Monday, 9/21, & it’s important they hear all your voices. By *all*, I mean especially those who tend not to do online surveys or… Continue Reading


Dear Friends, Today, on September 10th, people around the world will take action to raise awareness as part of World Suicide Prevention Day. At The Trevor Project, we fight this fight 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. The… Continue Reading

Guest Author: Michaela Ivri Mendelsohn, My Top Manager is a Transwoman

I first met Kristy after she had been working for a month at one of my El Pollo Loco restaurants in Thousand Oaks, California. Kristy is a tall dark haired Latina, transwoman in her late twenties.  While observing her, the… Continue Reading

Stone Butch Blues Free Download for Feinberg’s Birthday

In order to celebrate the birthday of Leslie Feinberg on this day 1st September, a free .pdf of their most celebrated book Stone Butch Blues is being made available free of charge to whoever wishes to access it. Now a… Continue Reading

Guest Author: Darya Teesewell, Hollywood ‘Takes Care of its Own,’ Unless You are Trans, Part 2

Recently I blogged about some of the challenges that trans people who live out here in Hollywood, a.k.a. America’s Liberal Dream Factory, face when it comes to health care. Let me underline exactly what those challenges mean. First, let’s look… Continue Reading

Guest Author: Loree Cook-Daniels, Scaring Ourselves to Death

I read a beautiful piece by Kai Cheng Thom over at XO Jane where the author starts by stating: When I was 19, I read an article in Guernica magazine stating that the average life span of a transgender person… Continue Reading

Being Legit

The SCOTUS ruling on same sex marriage is huge because people can finally marry yay! but there are so many other innumerable things. Today I went to get a new passport and they ask for the name of your spouse.… Continue Reading