Here’s a great interview with the amazing Laverne Cox and Janet Mock about Mister Cee – who was caught soliciting a trans female – that he loves women, dates women, but occasionally desires fellatio with a “transsexual” – that is, a trans woman.
What’s fascinating is how many people think he’s “just gay” and needs to come out.
Liking fellatio – and he’s unclear if he’s interested in a trans woman blowing him or blowing a woman who still has a penis – doesn’t make someone gay.
Liking men, as a man, makes someone gay (if anything does).
Men who like trans women are straight. Maybe adventurous. Maybe they like penises and women.
They said there is no language for someone who loves trans people, but in fact the term “trans amorous” – “trans am” for short – has been around quite a lot. They’re called trans admirers sometimes, or “transsensual” (which is used more on the FTM end of things).
THAT SAID: plenty of men who date trans women are straight men. Period. End of statement.
Janet Mock talks more about shame and gender policing in her article which is, as per usual, right on.
A very, very long time ago I asked trans admirers to step up.
I’m still waiting.