A Modest Proposal

Posted by – June 25, 2012

A trans guy puts the video of him proposing to his fiancee up on YouTube and the right wing mocks them.

But he wasn’t having it, and has responded with grace and humor and steeliness:

“To Laura Ingraham, a Fox News anchor who expressed dismay at seeing the news, we just want to say, do not worry. We will absolutely invite you to the wedding,” Scout says. As for Fischer, who Scout accidentally referred to as Miss Brianna Fischer, “We will offer you free LGBT cultural competency training.”

What his fiancee said is what drew me to this story.

There are some “people who think we’re mutants and horrible people,” said Margolies, who is executive director of the National LGBT Cancer Network in New York City. “But we’re just regular people struggling to do good in the world.”

This shouldn’t be a very difficult thing to explain, yet I find it is, time after time. The assumption that LGBTQ people – and especially trans people and their partners – are somehow living lives that are intentionally perverse is one that I find even welcoming liberals sometimes express.

We are not trying to be “out there”. We are trying to be happy, like everyone else.

A lot of the time, embracing the idea of being a pervert, or “out there”, is the only thing that keeps you sane, because otherwise, the constant judgment wears you down.

1 Comment on A Modest Proposal

  1. Debglam says:

    I just spent the weekend in San Francisco attending SF Pride and marching in the Pride Parade. I believe that this event is either the largest or second largest LGBTQ event in the world (Rio may be first).

    There were a lot of happy, smiling people just enjoying life. Old and young, LGBTQ and allies, nice people, and a lot of tourists. Now, I’m just a little old soccer mom at heart and saw things that I had never seen before. (!!!) What I didn’t see was fighting, hatred, aggression, anger, etc. A million people attended this event and no one was beaten into a coma for wearing the wrong sweatshirt, no one was stabbed, murdered, etc.

    Honestly, I would feel more comfortable bringing my children to an event like this, even with some of the nudity and open sexuality, than to a ball game or other mainstream public event.

    The so-called “normal” folks should take a lesson from US!

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