Happy Halloween

If you’ve never read it, then listen to Neil Gaiman’s “Snow, Glass, Apples” in five parts, read by Bebe Neuwirth, instead.

Part One * Part Two * Part Three * Part Four * Part Five

This is one of our very favorite stories, and a rare chapbook edition is one of our prized possessions.

That Salon Piece

Since what I’ve written here has now been commented on elsewhere, I will write more about the experience of loss when you’re the loved one of a trans person.

Y’all are going to force me to write another book, you know?

Honestly, you’d think being an ally for umpteen years would enable someone to come up with something a little better than “she blames the dad too.” I don’t. I blame the un-critical use of trans narratives that don’t account for the actual loss experienced by the loved ones of trans people – the loss especially experienced by those of us who stick by you through transition.

So I’ll say more, since I am also actually in mourning, and goddamn do I know the difference between the loss that comes with transition & the loss that comes with an actual death.

Salon Piece on Dad’s Transition

The caption was what got me: “After Dad had gender reassignment surgery, he promised he’d be the same person.”

Please, lovely trans folks, STOP saying this to your loved ones. It’s not true. The whole point of transition is to become a different person.

That doesn’t mean you won’t carry plenty of your personality over with you – you will & you should. But you will not be the same person.

If gender matters, gender matters. You wouldn’t need to transition if it didn’t, so be surprised when your loved ones miss your 1.0 self.

No, Really: Sexy Droogie

Honestly, someone is actually marketing a Sexy Droogie Costume for women who want to be Alex of A Clockwork Orange fame.  You know the movie – the one with one of the most horrifying rape scenes ever filmed? But sure! Just add thigh highs and cleavage!Of course they don’t call it that, since I’m guessing anyone selling or buying this costume hasn’t actually read the fucking book.

So while I’m thinking, who the hell is going to buy that, my google-fu turns up this exchange in Yahoo! Answers:

Sexy clockwork orange costume. any ideas?

so me and my boyfriend are trying to think up halloween costume ideas and i thought of being droogs from clockwork orange. so i was thinking get the white button up shirt, the white suspenders, derby hat, but with thigh high fishnets, stilletos and lots of clevage. oh and of course the one fake eyelash and cane. not so sure what to use for pants/skirt. maybe highwasted shorts.

any ideas on how to improve this costume?

& Yay, someone has an idea! Boots and tight shorts to go with the cleavage! That does it!

Best Answer – Chosen by Voters

I am also going to be Alex for halloween this year. I am a female and will be wearing short white shorts and knee high black boots to make the outfit a little sexier. There are lots of different versions of this theme. If you google it you can see lots of pics. Im also going to do the bloody eyeballs. Good luck with your costume!

Some days I just want to stay in bed until the planet gets less stupid.


#OWS: Oakland & Atlanta

This NYT piece on the recent crackdowns on both #OccupyAtlanta and #OccupyOakland covers a little bit of why the violence has escalated. Oakland has not had easy relationship with the police force for (at least) a few years now.

Cops: you are the 99%.

Protestors, stay peaceful and stay safe.

Girls Scouts Trans Friendly

The Girl Scouts have recently issued a statement about inclusion of young (trans) girls:

“Girl Scouts is an inclusive organization and we accept all girls in Kindergarten through 12th grade as members. If a child identifies as a girl and the child’s family presents her as a girl, Girl Scouts of Colorado welcomes her as a Girl Scout. Our requests for support of transgender kids have grown, and Girl Scouts of Colorado is working to best support these children, their families and the volunteers who serve them. In this case, an associate delivering our program was not aware of our approach. She contacted her supervisor, who immediately began working with the family to get the child involved and supported in Girl Scouts. We are accelerating our support systems and training so that we’re better able to serve all girls, families and volunteers.”

This in response to a report that one child was denied membership because one child was denied membership because “he has boy parts.”  Even the article reporting it headlined the piece Boy wanting to join Girl Scouts told ‘no‘ even if it was otherwise sympathetic.

I have to say, I’m pleasantly surprised, which is not something that happens often to a trans advocate.

Badass Barbie

= This is kinda what I made my Barbies look like, as well as I could, but apparently, some parents are not happy with Barbie’s alt makeover. She is a limited edition, however, and not the type of Barbie to be found in children’s toy stores. Too bad.


Trans in the Workplace

A magazine called Insight Into Diversity recently did an article on transgender issues in the workplace. I was interviewed for it, as were Jillian Weiss, author of Transgender Workplace Diversity and Vanessa Sheridan, author of The Complete Guide to Transgender in the Workplace, amongst others.

Dr. Weiss indicates that the issue of being transgender is increasingly coming to the fore. More people are in an environment where they feel more comfortable coming out, so more employers will be experiencing transitioning employees. “The time to prepare,” she says, “is now. If you have a decent size workforce, it’s likely that you will deal with a transitioning employee. It’s a question of when, not if.”

Sheridan agrees that the acceptance factor is growing. “It’s a reality of business life now,” she says. “The general public needs to be aware that transgender individuals are coming out in record numbers and that they are more visible in the community than ever before. It’s a social phenomenon gaining
increasing visibility.”

The article starts on p. 22 of the .pdf.

Occupy Writers #OWS

I’m very proud to be one of the signatories on this list of writers who are in support of the Occupy Wall Street movement.

Go check out a poem by Alice Walker titled “the joyful news of your arrest”, a list by Lemony Snicket, or a dispatch by Francine Prose (via Walt Whitman).

I’ll be writing something soon, so keep your eyes peeled.

Two Tune Friday: Elliott Smith, still missed

It’s been 8 years to the day since Elliott Smith died, so a special musical offering. I love his stuff, and wish he’d hung around to create more of this gorgeous music.

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I wish I had seen him live, too.

Imagine More #OWS

This is the piece about #OWS that says it best, for me.

No one deserves to live in a world built upon the degradation of human beings, forests, waters, and the rest of our living planet. Speaking to our brethren on Wall Street, no one deserves to spend their lives playing with numbers while the world burns. Ultimately, we are protesting not only on behalf of the 99% left behind, but on behalf of the 1% as well. We have no enemies. We want everyone to wake up to the beauty of what we can create.

It’s a gorgeous piece, full of wonder and optimism: It’s not supposed to be like this.

Gen X Is Sick of Your Bullshit

Wow it’s true:

Right now, Generation X just wants a beer and to be left alone. It just wants to sit here quietly and think for a minute. Can you just do that, okay? It knows that you are so very special and so very numerous, but can you just leave it alone? Just for a little bit? Just long enough to sneak one last fucking cigarette? No?

Whatever. It’s cool.

I especially like this bit:

But that’s okay. Generation X is used to being ignored, stuffed between two much larger, much more vocal, demographics. But whatever! Generation X is self-sufficient. It was a latchkey child.

Generation X is used to disappointments.

Oh yes we are.

Two Tune Tuesday: OK GO

They’re otherwise famous for the video of “A Million Ways” but I had their “I Want You So Bad I Can’t Breathe” come up on Pandora the other day, and so went hunting for it, which is when I discovered their lovely cover of “Antmusic” — which is a song I never expected to like a cover of, so props to them.

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so bad i can’t think straight /
so bad all my bones shake /
so bad i can’t breathe.

Wear Purple on 10/20

From GLAAD, via Bilerico:

Bilerico explains:

This month GLAAD is working with organizations including GLSEN, GSA Network, PFLAG and The Trevor Project as part of National Bullying spiritday.jpgPrevention Month to inspire Americans to wear purple on Spirit Day. The Bilerico Project will be joining the campaign by changing our logo purple for the campaign. Wearing purple on this day symbolizes support for LGBT people and against bullying of LGBT teens. 

& GLAAD lists the tons of participants:

Conan O’Brien will join CNBC’s Jim Cramer and Simon Hobbs, Dr. Drew of CNN, E!’s Marc Malkin, Thomas Roberts of MSNBC and hosts of CBS’ The Talk by wearing purple on-air. Seventeen magazine will turn its Twitter avatar purple for the day. 

MTV will be turning the on-air logo purple along with its Facebook, Twitter, MTV.com and MTV Act logos. Online and on-air logos for MTV2, mtvU, MTV Hits, MTV James and RateMyProfessors.com will also turn purple. MTV 44 and ½, the jumbotron in Times Square, will also light purple for Spirit Day. Continue reading “Wear Purple on 10/20”

About Chaz

GLAAD put together a group of trans advocates to watch Chaz Bono’s appearance on Dancing with the Stars.

Nice work, no?

Happy Friday!

Anyone else remember Human Sexual Response or this song “Cool Jerk”? Nifty video I’d never seen before, too:

(You may remember their song “Jackie Onassis” instead.)

Have a lovely weekend. If you can, do try to make it to an Occupy Your Local City: Saturday the 15th should be a remarkable day all over the country. (I’ll be in Madison.)

47% Condescension

A friend of mine put up this Daily Kos “letter to the 53%er” whose image and letter have been showing up all over the place.

I was disgusted by the condescension, and maybe that’s because I’m a working class asshole like that guy in his photo.

But liberals – oh, I love you liberals, and know that I’m one of you – really sometimes get caught up in their own superiority to such a degree that I don’t want to be a part of them at all. I understand, when I read a letter like that, guys like the 53% who think we’re all a bunch of overeducated elites.

So here’s my letter to that guy:

Dude, watch the movie Animal Farm. You’re the horse. Don’t fall for it.

Crimes & Misdemeanors

Topeka, Kansas isn’t currently enforcing domestic violence laws put on the books to protect women. They say they can’t afford to.

& Honestly, I’d like to know when exactly we’re going to realize that our courts are clogged with minor drug offenses instead.

I’m Hir: for National Coming Out Day

I haven’t had the performance of a poem make me cry in a long time.

Thanks to Reiko of LU for bringing it to my attention.

Happy Coming Out Day, everyone!