Men Are Valuable Even When They Aren’t Dads

Posted by – May 6, 2010

There are times, as a woman, that if you actually manage to recognize your own humanity, instead of your use as a breeder*/parent, you still have to face the fact that people write articles like this explaining that you are not an asshole.

It’s astonishing.

Just try to imagine the same article with the word men in place of women: “Childless men have been able to accumulate education and resources they otherwise wouldn’t have had if they’d had children. This time and income could then be put back into other people’s families “to pay for lifesaving operations, or to rescue the family farm, or to take in a child whose mother had fallen gravely ill.”

I mean, really?!

And while this particular article is pro child-free women (albeit condescending), it amazes me that any argument has to be made that women are of value even when they aren’t parents, that many women choose to be childfree (for whatever reason) and/or that even women who wanted kids and didn’t have any (for whatever reason) can live satisfying lives.

Can we get back to ZPG ideas? Is it possible, even, for people to consider all this talk about being green when it comes to children? There are too many of us on this planet & we’re destroying it as a result, and we don’t have a goddamn chance if the value of women who don’t have children has to be explained.

What bullshit.

* to clarify, since someone objected to my use of the term breeder: i used the term breeder to point out that this is the way our culture thinks of women if articles like this have to be written. i don’t use the term otherwise, but i do think it’s highly problematic that someone might object to the term but not the attitude/culture that treats them that way. that is, the only evidence that the culture doesn’t consider women breeders, and breeders only, is if there is inherent value in a woman’s life when she isn’t a parent.

5 Comments on Men Are Valuable Even When They Aren’t Dads

  1. marci says:

    Well, well, well. We who have children are “breeders?” You know, this was a perjorative term coined by the gay community, it still is, and I find your use of it obnoxious.

  2. helenboyd says:

    way to miss the point, marci.

    “breeder,” like “tranny,” is not always a pejorative, and i didn’t intend it as one.

    so you’ve managed to make my commentary on an article that has to provide evidence for my humanity about parenting.

    well done.

  3. helenboyd says:

    ** furthermore: i used the term to point out that it is pretty apparent that this is the way our culture thinks of women if articles like this have to be written.

  4. divadarya says:

    Interestingly, just above that cheery condescending bullshit article(I can say it, I’m COMMENTING) was a another one chirping breathlessly “plus-size women embraced by Polish Elle” Right. Because plus-size women need encouraging too, the poor dears, there there, even a beautiful person like *me* recognizes you want to pretty too like *me*…..
    Gag.

  5. divadarya says:

    PS I call my hometown Breederville, and I r one.

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