Month: May 2008

White Privilege

Posted by – May 31, 2008

& More on the Fr. Pfleger post! Someone wrote to me & said:

I am Catholic as well, 1st generation Irish-American, I was poor, faced prejudice – and feel I owe nothing to Father Pfleger’s constituency. I feel I worked myself out of the bottom and I don’t feel anyone owes me anything either. But if this race-baiting (as I see it) continues then I might have to argue that I was discriminated against as well—if not here in the USA then maybe in Ireland/England.

But then when does it end? When does victimization end? It has gone on a long time in the USA and it hasn’t improved. I don’t think victimization helps improve people’s lives. It never helped me. I worked my way out of it (and people don’t understand the work that I did unless they did it themselves).

But when Father Pfleger says we owe some of or 401k’s to black people because we had ‘white privilege’, I have difficulty understanding it because I don’t feel I had equal opportunity and yet I don’t resent it. I accept it–It is life and I don’t think it will ever change.

Which is all perfectly logical & makes sense to me; I think it’s the nut of why poor and working-class white people sometimes object to Affirmative Action programs.

Except that the reality, in the US, is that we have inherited a system where some people are oppressed because of their race and only because of their race. It is not the only way people are oppressed, and plenty of us (white folks) did not have family here when slavery was operable. But the system that came out of race-based slavery was, in turn, racist.

So while poor white people didn’t benefit from equal treatment – because we didn’t – we didn’t have to deal with being poor AND black. We were privileged in one aspect – being white – and oppressed in another – by class. Catholics and Jews and other “white” immigrant groups were often also oppressed due to their religion or recent immigration status. Often these groups are referred to as “white ethnic” – meaning ‘white but not WASP.’ It’s what I consider myself. For an excellent book on the subject, specifically the way whiteness was sold as privilege to unionized white workers – check out The Wages of Whiteness, or on White Ethnic groups, check out White Ethnics.

Being able to look at the ways we are each privileged and the ways we are oppressed is what we call Intersectionality in Gender Studies.

But more importantly, let me say this: the idea here isn’t about victimization. It’s about understanding one’s individual story in context. It’s not about sitting around & saying “woe is me” or anything like it. It’s just about knowing which aspects of your own experience and others works against you, & them; it’s a way of explaining why some women are more privileged than others, and why, say, a white, rich, professional gay man might have a hard time understanding why a black poor lesbian can’t get a decent start in life despite them both being LGBT.

So: no whining. Just acknowledgment in the ways we exist, as individuals, within the larger culture and its institutions, and the ways those institutions, in turn, shape us. (Of course that doesn’t mean there aren’t people who would prefer to blame everyone & anyone for why they suck, but that’s an entirely different issue entirely.)

Again, in Context

Posted by – May 31, 2008

Betty has brought it to my attention that much of the lefty blogosphere is upset with Fr. Pfleger – that going to Obama’s church & mocking Hillary was not good for Obama, at all.

Which may be true. Surely it is. But that’s not what I was talking about.

I was talking only about the way that white people often deny white privilege & entitlement in ways that seem logical & make sense.  For the record.

Fr. Michael Pfleger

Posted by – May 30, 2008

When Catholics priests are righteous, they make me so damn happy. Shoot, I’d be a practicing Catholic again if I found a parish priest like him.

For the record, it’s the beginning of this sermon that I like the most – not his mockery of Clinton per se – but the issue of white people trying to deny their own white privilege that rings true to me.

His Two Uncles

Posted by – May 30, 2008

More on Governor Paterson’s decision:

When David A. Paterson was growing up and his parents would go out of town, he and his little brother would stay in Harlem with family friends they called Uncle Stanley and Uncle Ronald.

Uncle Stanley and Uncle Ronald were a gay couple, though in the 1960s few people described them that way. They helped young David with his spelling, and read to him and played cards with him.

“Apparently, my parents never thought we were in any danger,” the governor recalled on Thursday in an interview. “I was raised in a culture that understood the different ways that people conduct their lives. And I feel very proud of it.”

It’s a nice article on the how the governor became an LGBT ally.

About Time

Posted by – May 29, 2008

Finally I don’t have to be embarassed to be a NYer: Governor Paterson has decided that NY will recognize other states’ same-sex marriages!

In a directive issued on May 14, the governor’s legal counsel, David Nocenti, instructed the agencies that gay couples married elsewhere “should be afforded the same recognition as any other legally performed union.”

The revisions are most likely to involve as many as 1,300 statutes and regulations in New York governing everything from joint filing of income tax returns to transferring fishing licenses between spouses.

It is SO about time.

Imbeach Push

Posted by – May 29, 2008

Andrew Sullivan has just said outloud, so to speak, that Bush should be impeached.

I suppose that would require proving that what McClennan has said in his book is true.

Birth & Death

Posted by – May 28, 2008

There is a lot of language around transness that is about death/rebirth, & honestly, it always put me off. I didn’t like thinking about the idea of Jason dying (or Betty killing him off). It seems overly dramatic.

But that’s just me. I’m not good at metaphorical births & metaphorical deaths. I think we have words for those specific passages because they’re – well, specific.

Park Slope Drama

Posted by – May 27, 2008

Oy vey…

Thank You

Posted by – May 26, 2008

A thank you to all our current soldiers and our veterans today, and to the families of those people who often wait and worry in ways most of us can’t imagine. But an especial thank you to those LGBT veterans who are often dismissed and not acknowledged. If you’d like to read a little of a trans veteran’s views, check out this column from last year by Autumn Sandeen, here’s some info on trans issues re: veterans from NCTE.

Happy Memorial Day. Please don’t drink and drive.

Not Just Hillary’s Problem

Posted by – May 25, 2008

Marie Cocco’s column, in The Washington Post, about the misogyny expressed in Hillary Clinton-bashing, is quite eye-opening, I think. Not surprising to me, but seeing it laid out starkly in black and white is sobering nonetheless.

Firewater Redux

Posted by – May 25, 2008

Right now, drunk, my only regret in life is not having had Tod A.’s lovechild. Really.

Tonight at Southpaw, here in the Slope, they were amazing – from the female trombone player to the Sikh drummer who was goddamned amazing.I haven’t danced so much for forever. More

Go Ellen

Posted by – May 25, 2008

If you haven’t seen it, it’s worth watching: Ellen puts John McCain in the hotseat over gay marriage.

The Other Two

Posted by – May 24, 2008

& The other two most popular attractions for the French, when they come to visit NYC, after the Brooklyn Bridge:

  • #2: The Statue of Liberty (because the French gave it to us, after all)
  • #3: Harlem

If you’re wondering about #3, let me remind you of Ms. Josephine Baker (amongst other reasons).

Cleaning John Malcovich

Posted by – May 23, 2008

Here’s one of the odder things I’ve ever found on the Internets: John Malcovich being interviewed while being bathed, in a bathtub, by another man.

(thanks to Tranny in Trouble for the link.)

A Simple Answer to a Stupid Question

Posted by – May 23, 2008

Is Barack Obama Muslim?

#1 Reason to Come to NYC

Posted by – May 23, 2008

Tonight Betty & I were watching some combination of Burn Notice, Keith Olbermann, and Law & Order (always L&O), when we heard fireworks out our window. There were some last week too, so we kind of responded with a “must be more of whatever that was.”

It turns out that yesterday, May 22nd, was the 125th Birthday of the Brooklyn Bridge.

So Happy Birthday, bridge of bridges, and well done, Msrs. Roebling: we still love your bridge.

The Brooklyn Bridge is often listed as one of the top three attractions the French come to NYC to see. The other two? That answer tomorrow, but guesses are welcome.

Don’t Worry, Be Equal

Posted by – May 22, 2008

Funny, but I don’t expect we’ll see the usual round of panicked op-eds worrying about the poor boys this time around, since there isn’t anything to worry about. Or rather, there’s never been anything to worry about.

Not that most of us didn’t know that. It seemed hard to believe that hundreds of years of male privilege had been undone by a few female math teachers, and that quickly!

(Thanks to Lena for the link)

& Another Thing

Posted by – May 21, 2008

So Kentucky voters have said that race matters.

Has anyone actually come out & said they won’t vote for Clinton because she’s a woman?

Is Geraldine Ferraro talking out her ass again?

Gendered Politics

Posted by – May 21, 2008

What’s a politico to do? I am an ardent feminist, which most of you reading already know well enough. But I’m so saddened by the way women are talking about the Democratic nomination and how they feel they’ve been sent to the back of the bus. I don’t doubt that there was some sexism at play, in the media & elsewhere, for Hilary Clinton. It’d be a surprise if there weren’t. But that’s not a good enough reason not to vote. I mean, imagine the Suffragists! Imagine what they fought for, what they went through, & imagine explaining how you, as a woman, chose not to vote because your candidate didn’t get the nomination.

I couldn’t do it. I’m not happy about Obama’s “sweetie” remark at all. And it’s true that I just don’t like Hilary Clinton and never have; her ambition scares me. Not because it’s wrong for a woman to be ambitious – I so wish more were! – but because hers seems more about what it would mean to her to be president than being about what she could do for the country. And it scares me, when someone’s goals seem more about having something to prove than about accomplishing something.

If Ann Richards had run for president, I would have worked on her campaign and given up a year of my life to get her elected. And if Obama doesn’t win the nomination, I will work to get Hilary Clinton elected. Because the sad reality is that John McCain is not pro-woman: he’s not pro-choice, he voted against the Lily Ledbetter Act, and he actually had the nerve to suggest that women should get more education and training if they want to be paid as much as men.

So please, Clinton supporters: get out & support whoever the Democratic nominee is. I will.

Female Jocks

Posted by – May 20, 2008

Wow this is depressing.

When I was a kid, I beat one of my peers at the 50 yard dash. & He challenged me to race his older (by a year) cousin, who I also beat.

& Then I was told, by my teacher, that beating boys wasn’t something girls did. & Yes, it did kinda take the fun out of running for me; I stopped running competitively within a year or so.

& I’ve watched my nieces grow up & kick ass in sports, and it made my heart proud to hear about them getting a face full of mud in order to steal third. But then I read something like this & I wonder, at the heart of it, how much has really changed.