Passing for Couples

I was just now re-drafting one of my chapters, when out of the blue it occurred to me that one of the issues for a (female + mtf) couple making it through transition (social, medical or otherwise) is the ability to pass as a lesbian couple. I know about all the “like sisters” people; they’re all well and good and don’t have to pass as anything but friends (or sisters, obviously). But for those of us who still want a publicly visible, romantic and sexual relationship, what we’re effectively looking to do is pass as a lesbian, or bisexual, or queer couple. In order to do that, I think you have to know something about what lesbian, bisexual, and queer couples are like, no?

2 Replies to “Passing for Couples”

  1. Absolutely. And that used to worry me. My former partner certainly had no trouble fitting in, and we were always welcome in lesbian spaces, but I never thought for a second that I “passed as a lesbian.” Except with my partner. Which, at the time, was all that really mattered, I guess.


  2. I agree, as early as I am in transition, my fiance and I face the difficulty a lot. She and I are both pansexual but we are precieved as a hetro couple, but see ourselves as a lesbian couple. Lots of wierdness.

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