Dark Odyssey Without Us
I just realized that Dark Odyssey: Summer Camp starts today, & we’re not there, & not going, & wow does that suck.
I hope all our friends have fun & miss us terribly, as long as the missing us part doesn’t interfere with the having fun part.
Feminist Porn
In Stockholm, government-funded feminist porn will be screened for the first time. The porn is actually 12 short films, shot on mobile phones; all twelve of the individual directors are female, and one is an MTF transgender person.
What’s impressive is how little the article makes of that last fact.
(h/t to Guerrilla Girls on Tour, via Twitter)
Today’s NYT
There’s one great article about women in the world which to some degree states clearly that feminism is not dead & shouldn’t be, and another article, a book review, talks about the relationship between money and sex as laid out by the sex workers who wrote the essays in Hos, Hookers, Call Girls and Rent Boys
Friday they had a good article about Caster Semenya written by Alice Dreger.
Sex Stuff I Mentioned at TransOhio
First, there’s that porn flick How to Fuck in High Heels.
Then, there’s the all-kink inclusive summer camp we’ve been to called Dark Odyssey, which is taking place from 9/16-21 in a campgrounds in Maryland (although sadly, we can’t make it this year).
& Here’s two I didn’t mention (at least not by name):
I really like this Spare Parts harness.
& I mentioned not too long ago that I’m a big fan of this silver bullet vibrator.
Sexless Marriage
Obviously this NYT article about sex & marriage is written from an incredibly heterocentric perspective, and it’s primarily talking about marriages where the sex started good & disappeared over time, and, in my opinion, it’s unnecessarily pessimistic.
The answer to this question “Are couples in sexless marriages less happy than couples having sex?” is especially reductive. We can’t tell if happy couples are happy because they’re having sex, or if they’re having sex because they’re happy, or even if the two things have anything to do with each other. & I’m suspicious of any self-reporting when it comes to sex, since so many people say they’re having a lot more than they are.
Otherwise, I’m interested in her longitudinal research. I just hope she includes more than heterosexual relationships in her work.
Correction
An old friend reprimanded me for focusing on the used battery part of the vibe I recommended.
What I meant to say was: you have orgasms. Orgasms are great. They are good for you mentally and physically. And learning how your own body experiences pleasure is empowering, sexy, and healthy.
Babeland!
Babeland now has an Affiliates program, & since I regularly recommend sex toys (though usually in the Sex & Sensibility forum of our message boards), I thought it would be a good idea for me to sign up! So the next time you’re in the market for a new toy, if you click on the Babeland link from here, you help support our work, you make Babeland some money for being the cool retailer they are, & you get – orgasms.
Not a bad deal.
For now I wanted to recommend the basic silver bullet vibe : it’s discreet, it works, & it’s a great way to use up your batteries that are too old to do anything else. No, really: a lot of people find they don’t need it at full throttle, so you can use your half-used batteries in it & still get off.
Tops & Bottoms
Now you can decide which city to live in based on whether you prefer being on the top or on the bottom.
Sex Resources for Trans Women
Today’s Feministing “Ask Professor Foxy” column is from a trans woman who can’t find good sex resources for her. I’ve made a few suggestions, but maybe you all know other good places to check. So far I’ve recommended:
- the sexuality forum on our MHB message boards
- the GenderLife forums
- Christine McGinn, who has done workshops on orgasms for post-op trans women
With your input, I can put a bigger list together.