WI Book Fest – Resources

As promised, a few of the resources I promised to people who came to the Love, Always reading yesterday at A Room of One’s Own. My online group for partners of trans people: https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/engender_partners/info Our online forum for trans people… Continue Reading

WI Book Festival Reading of Love, Always

I’ll be reading from the Love, Always anthology with my friend Miriam Hall and another contributor, Shawnee Parens, on 10/24 at 3PM at A Room of One’s Own bookstore. Excited.

She’s The Woman I Married

“There is something star-crossed about trans couples sometimes,” Boyd says when I meet up with her a few days later. “I was very much in love with my husband, and I will always miss being married to that person. The… Continue Reading

Here from New York?

I was interviewed for an article titled “My Husband Is Now My Wife” for New York magazine recently, and while the online version isn’t up yet, the issue is out. So if you’ve shown up here as a result of… Continue Reading

Pitchforks & Puritanism

No matter what hypocrites get exposed (Josh Duggar, & there will no doubt be others from the “family values” crowd), I just can’t enjoy the mass doxing that is the Ashley Madison hacking. Maybe I work too much with couples… Continue Reading

My Online Group for Partners

I’ve been getting quite a few requests for this link, so I thought it was about time to put it up again: https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/engender_partners/info It’s open to all kinds of partners: wives of crossdressers, partners of people considering transition, partners of… Continue Reading

To the Wife Who Just Found Out

I read this piece in the LA Times by the ex wife of a transitioned trans woman yesterday – and read all of the amazing commentary about it on my Facebook page by trans people and trans partners – and… Continue Reading

SCOTUS Rules for Marriage Equality

Kathleen Dunn Show – Done!

Our radio interview on WPR’s The Kathleen Dunn Show is now up & available for listening or downloading. It’s a call-in show and we got a lot of good questions. Ms. Dunn was, and is, a great interviewer. Topics included:… Continue Reading

Ireland Votes for Marriage

Here’s a great story about some of the Irish expats who went home to vote, as it was up by referendum. It’s the first country to do so my popular vote. Here’s another about #hometovote. More lovely photos. Northern Ireland… Continue Reading


My wife and I were lucky enough to score tickets to see The Replacements this past weekend in Milwaukee; neither of us had ever seen them back in the day and both of us were fans. And they were, as… Continue Reading

Partner’s Blues

Here’s a smart piece about dating someone who is still uncomfortable with their own gender issues, who embraces and then rejects them, and how one partner tried to come to terms with that – but didn’t. This: The wall I’m… Continue Reading

Love, Always Epilogue

I’ve been meaning to wrap up my interviews with partners by putting up a small piece of my Epilogue for Love, Always. I read it Saturday night at a FORGE meeting because Trystan Cotten, Transgress Press’ Managing Editor, was in… Continue Reading

Five Questions With… Miriam

The last (for now!) of my interviews with partners of trans people who wrote narratives for Transgress Press’ Love, Always, is not, by far, the least. Miriam Hall is also a friend, fellow writer, & fellow Wisconsinite. She’s a writer… Continue Reading

Five Questions With… Melissa

Melissa Contreras is an old friend, a past participant on the mHB message boards, and an amazing person. Here’s her interview, to round out the amazing narrative she wrote for Transgress Press’ Love, Always. 1. What didn’t you write about… Continue Reading

Her Husband

Narratives like this one are always so hard to read. It’s all so familiar, and brings me back to a time when I hadn’t made any peace (yet) with my partner’s transition, and I knew so much more going into… Continue Reading

Five Questions With… Tasha

Another interview with a partner whose narrative is in Transgress Press’ Love, Always. 1. What didn’t you write about in your narrative but wish you had? I wish I had known at the beginning that they were going to discard… Continue Reading

How Marriage Changed

I did this talk back in November for Lawrence. It’s a basic overview of the changes in marriage, focusing specifically on same sex marriage and how, and why, things seemed to change so quickly. So this is what I do… Continue Reading

Five Questions With… Loree Cook Daniels

Another interview with one of the partners whose narrative is in Transgress Press’ Love, Always. Loree Cook Daniel’s is the “partner’s partner” and has been working on SOFFA support and inclusion in the trans community for 20 years. She works… Continue Reading

Five Questions With… Dan

In honor of the publication of Transgress Press’ Love, Always: Partners of Trans People on Intimacy, Challenge, & Resistance, I’ve done a few interviews with partners whose words appear in this book. The first of these is with Dan, whose… Continue Reading