Interview: Ashley Altadonna & Helen Boyd, Pt. 2

Here’s Part 2 of the conversation between me and Ashley Altadonna, the filmmaker. Ashley: What do you wish trans partners knew more regarding their cisgendered partners? Helen: That we feel all the stigma, too, and feel personally at risk as… Continue Reading

Trans Actors, Trans Stories, Trans Lives

More than a decade ago, the most talented actor I’ve ever known gave up acting. She needed to transition, and her acting career was the hardest thing she had to give up, but she didn’t want to be a pony… Continue Reading

Interview: Ashley Altadonna & Helen Boyd, Pt 1

My friend the filmmaker Ashley Altadonna and I recently decided to interview each other; we’ve had an ongoing conversation about the nature of relationships vis a vis transness for years now, and every time I talk to her I discover… Continue Reading

Your Wife is Trans? And Other Boring News…

So I kinda love this brief piece on Medium which is kind of a big yawn’s take on someone’s spouse turning out to be a woman, and yet I kinda don’t like it too. Let me explain: there have always… Continue Reading

Stuff I Said

Last night at my talk at The Tool Shed in Milwaukee, a couple of people live-tweeted the event. So here’s some stuff I said, in the order I said them: “I was the very enthusiastic girlfriend of a crossdresser &… Continue Reading

Me Tomorrow at The Tool Shed, MKE

Tomorrow (Thursday 4/7) I’ll be doing an event in Milwaukee at the awesome Tool Shed as part of Milwaukee’s SHARE (Sexual Health and Relationship Education) week. It’s called “PROMISES YOU CAN KEEP: Through Transition Together” 8:30 PM Here’s where you… Continue Reading

Me @ The Tool Shed, MKE

I’ll be doing an event on Thursday, April 7th in Milwaukee at the awesome Tool Shed as part of Milwaukee’s SHARE (Sexual Health and Relationship Education) week. Here’s where you register for it. Here’s the Facebook event. Here’s the FetLife… Continue Reading

When Your Wife Becomes Your Husband

There’s a nice article by Roni Jacobson in New York magazine just now about men who stay with trans masculine partners; I was interviewed for it but it is mostly an interview with the guys of the blog Accidentally Gay.… Continue Reading

WI Book Fest – Resources

As promised, a few of the resources I promised to people who came to the Love, Always reading yesterday at A Room of One’s Own. My online group for partners of trans people: Our online forum for trans people… Continue Reading

WI Book Festival Reading of Love, Always

I’ll be reading from the Love, Always anthology with my friend Miriam Hall and another contributor, Shawnee Parens, on 10/24 at 3PM at A Room of One’s Own bookstore. Excited.

She’s The Woman I Married

“There is something star-crossed about trans couples sometimes,” Boyd says when I meet up with her a few days later. “I was very much in love with my husband, and I will always miss being married to that person. The… Continue Reading

Here from New York?

I was interviewed for an article titled “My Husband Is Now My Wife” for New York magazine recently, and while the online version isn’t up yet, the issue is out. So if you’ve shown up here as a result of… Continue Reading

Pitchforks & Puritanism

No matter what hypocrites get exposed (Josh Duggar, & there will no doubt be others from the “family values” crowd), I just can’t enjoy the mass doxing that is the Ashley Madison hacking. Maybe I work too much with couples… Continue Reading

My Online Group for Partners

I’ve been getting quite a few requests for this link, so I thought it was about time to put it up again: It’s open to all kinds of partners: wives of crossdressers, partners of people considering transition, partners of… Continue Reading

To the Wife Who Just Found Out

I read this piece in the LA Times by the ex wife of a transitioned trans woman yesterday – and read all of the amazing commentary about it on my Facebook page by trans people and trans partners – and… Continue Reading

SCOTUS Rules for Marriage Equality

Kathleen Dunn Show – Done!

Our radio interview on WPR’s The Kathleen Dunn Show is now up & available for listening or downloading. It’s a call-in show and we got a lot of good questions. Ms. Dunn was, and is, a great interviewer. Topics included:… Continue Reading

Ireland Votes for Marriage

Here’s a great story about some of the Irish expats who went home to vote, as it was up by referendum. It’s the first country to do so my popular vote. Here’s another about #hometovote. More lovely photos. Northern Ireland… Continue Reading


My wife and I were lucky enough to score tickets to see The Replacements this past weekend in Milwaukee; neither of us had ever seen them back in the day and both of us were fans. And they were, as… Continue Reading

Partner’s Blues

Here’s a smart piece about dating someone who is still uncomfortable with their own gender issues, who embraces and then rejects them, and how one partner tried to come to terms with that – but didn’t. This: The wall I’m… Continue Reading