Posted by – September 13, 2013
Because Lawrence is on the term system, we are just starting our fall term next week, but we’ve got a special first section of our Freshmen Studies class, which I teach. Tomorrow a small group of unsuspecting first year students will meet me as their 1st college professor.
Otherwise, everyone else is back on campus now too, & classes start in earnest on Monday for all.
So welcome back, Lawrence! & So it begins again, this time for the class of 2017.
Posted by – September 11, 2013
We happen to be fostering three kittens at the moment, all of them goofy, clumsy little ninjas, hungry and recently weaned. One orange, one grey, one tortico. And they have been amusing the hell out of me, like kittens always do.
But today? They are running all over the place & so I’m reminded of that day 12 years ago when I looked down at our hardwood living room floor in Brooklyn and noticed that our kitty boys – who were then about a year & a half – had left footprints while they played.
& That was when we noticed the light coating of ash on the floor.
& Then it all comes back: the smell, god the smell. But the phone calls, & my family gathering on Long Island that following weekend, to look at our wedding photos – we’d just gotten married in July. Walking down the street in Park Slope & a woman stopping to take a call on her cellphone & watching her go ashen & cry & fall to her knees right there on the sidewalk. Finding a day a few months later to shop up on 7th Avenue and running into a funeral for a Rescue One firefighter.
It was a lot of that. It wasn’t a day.
It was months, now years, more than a decade, & yet the shock of it, and the sadness, never goes away.
So today, tears, and kittens who leave no footprints.
Posted by – September 7, 2013
Here’s a short piece I wrote for the Wisconsin Gazette, Wiconsin’s LGBT paper, about Chelsea Manning. I didn’t actually title it, for the record, and I was a little surprised to see the big photo of me, but I’m happy to see it out there.
Posted by – August 30, 2013
Hello all! I’ve been having a problem with the subscription widget for this blog lately and haven’t yet come up with a fix. Once I do, I’ll announce it here – and/or hopefully be able to send an email to all of you who have subscribed in the past.
Wish me luck.
Posted by – August 2, 2013
My amazing, full, rich, hot stay in NYC is over, and I’m back in Appleton, at my house with sparrows in the backyard and flowers in bloom and it’s really not so bad.
Posted by – July 14, 2013
Thanks to all of you who wished me and my lovely wife a happy wedding anniversary today.
I have been, as some of you have realized, feeling a lot more private lately, about a lot of things, and so am no longer on Facebook or other social networking sites. I think I am just a little fatigued, and still a little twitchy due to the move from Giant Anonymous Place to here.
(Still, the well wishes of you all mean a great deal to me, and I appreciate both the enthusiasm and the attention.)
Posted by – July 13, 2013
I’m speaking, briefly, at Pride Alive today, around 11am, up in Green Bay. The event goes from 11am until 10PM, so do come. I’ve tabled for Fair Wisconsin at this event in the past, and it’s a cool thing.
Posted by – June 21, 2013
I’m noticing a lot of newbies reading and commenting here, so I just wanted to say hello, and maybe add a caveat: this blog is 10 years old, & there’s plenty I’ve written here that I don’t even agree with anymore. So do keep that in mind as you read, or not. I don’t like editing/changing history, so I leave it as is, but do please ask for an update if you find yourself reading an old post & wondering why I’m such an asshole.
So our big Endymion is on his way out of this world, but right now he’s stable – on a mix of steroids and antibiotics, with another trip to the vet for bloodwork tomorrow. He was severely anemic and jaundiced yesterday at the vet, and although the jaundice seems to have diminished, he still seems very, very tired.
But he did decide to hang around long enough for his mom to get back here and kiss his big head.
Thanks for all the good thoughts and prayers. We’d rather him around forever, but not if he’s suffering, so we’ll see what shitty decisions we’ll have to make, or not.
(This is one of my favorites of the big goober, taken back in Brooklyn.)
(I’ve gotten a ride. Thank you all for helping out by re-posting this note.)
I desperately need an emergency ride from Milwaukee airport to Appleton. I’m arriving at 2:30 & want to leave right away.
Our Endymion is dying. We’ve made him comfy & he’s at home, but I’d like to be able to say goodbye. I can’t change my flights, and because of my stupid probationary license, I can’t rent a car.
If you know anyone who might be able to do this, even if you can’t, please pass it on. Obviously I’ll pay for gas & consider any other requests for remuneration.
And now I’m in Portland visiting with an old, old friend – the one I used to read old sexology books with in the library in high school – and meeting her husband and her two year old son for the very first time.
Seattle was too amazing. I already miss it.
I’m back in Wisconsin Tuesday.
Okay, I’m in love with Seattle. There are bike paths everywhere, dorks everywhere, the weather is gorgeous (sunny inbetween mild and gloomy days) and I’ve met some amazing people, got to see a few people I haven’t seen in a very long time, and otherwise am so totally impressed with the place it’s ridiculous.
I’m teaming up with Gender Justice League to do a small event tonight, Tuesday 5/21, at 7PM. If you can join us, please let them know you’ll be attending. If you click on the calendar entry for tonight’s meeting, you’ll find the name of the venue & directions.
For the very first time, I’m going to Seattle! Today’s a travel day, so I may not get emails and the like until I’m back on terra firma.
Have I mentioned that I’m going away for about a 10 days to visit Seattle and Portland?! I am, and SOON.
I’m going to Seattle in order to give the keynote at Esprit this year – which is in Port Angeles, WA, & I’m told it’s beautiful. I’ve been told many times it’s a fun conference, too. I’ll be doing two workshops while I’m there as well. I’ll be there from 5/17 – 5/19.
I will probably also be doing some kind of author gig in Seattle while I”m there, possibly on the 20th or 21st.
And I will get to see a very, very old friend in Portland who I haven’t seen in — at least a few years now — which is really too great.
Posted by – April 14, 2013
So many anniversaries: today, 15 years ago, I met the person I married.
Some days it is hard to imagine how much we have been through in that time, and other days it is as if nothing has changed.
Still other days I am astonished by the luck I had in finding someone who loves me so much, who has taken such good care of me through some difficult stuff, and who has, in turn, asked much of me.
(for life’s not a paragraph)
Posted by – March 31, 2013
This website is officially 10 years old today – it may be older than that, but that’s the earliest screen capture on file with the wayback machine. The online forums were there right from the start, too, when the site had a whopping 3355 hits. (I’m at 1.6 million or so now.)
There is no evidence of the blog until November 2003, except of course for my own posts on it, which start in August 2003, but either way, there is no denying that 2013 is my 10th anniversary year. I was writing My Husband Betty for the first three months of 2003, so finally, I will admit it: it took me three months to write, only.
Either way: it’s been a long time. Love to all of you who’ve followed me through the years – and some of you really have been reading the whole time, which blows my mind. An author could not be more thankful for such loyal readers.
But of course, as with the books, a very special thanks to my wife, who was then my husband, but who was always the one who made the blog machine work. She created the first website, convinced me to have the forums, and the blog, and then, later, challenged me to blog daily. She keeps challenging me, too, to write, to talk, to keep on; I would not trade this decade with her for anything in the world.
And if you’d like to make a donation in honor of my 10th anniversary, you can do so: to me, of course, or to NCTE (which also turns 10 this year), or to Fair Wisconsin’s Education Fund (which is also tax deductible).
Posted by – March 22, 2013
So my lovely wife has been working a lot of hours for a lot of months in order to create Lawrence University’s new website. It launched this week and I for one wanted to congratulate her on this gigantic project. Well done, doll!
Posted by – March 19, 2013
… and I manage to return home with the flu or a stomach virus or whatever miserable thing it is. But at least, at least! it waited until all the good stuff was over, & even waited until the flight was over, because that would have sucked in a big way.
Posted by – March 19, 2013
… and there’s this one, too, of me and my wife.