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Tomboys, Gender Non Conformity, & Trans Identity

A few more thoughts about that NYT tomboy article, the various rebuttals, and my post from yesterday. I have to own that I wanted that mom to be right. For starters, because the world is transphobic and I am too –… Continue Reading

Happy Earth Day? From an Urban Green

I’ve never really figured out how I’m supposed to love Mother Earth and am suspicious of anything as awesome as a planet being gendered, of course. That’s human silliness. I first became green when I volunteered for NYC’s Earth Day,… Continue Reading

Dismayed: Tomboys in the NYT

So many people, including me, read that NYT piece about the mom who was proud of her GNC child who she described as a tomboy – a girl who is masculine but female-identified. Yay, gender non conformity! Yay tomboys! There… Continue Reading

What Comes Back

It’s been a long year of so many losses, but in a sense, this start of spring, the undoing of wintry death, reminds us too of what won’t come undone just with the passage of time, that some things, and… Continue Reading

Music: PWR BTTM

I can’t even with the news so here’s some music and cool lyrics. Sing along when the haters get you down. [Verse 1] There are men in every town who live to bring you down Make themselves feel bigger making… Continue Reading

Baby and Bathwater

There is a tendency, I think, for those of us whose goal is creating a world that is a little more self aware of sexism, racism, transphobia, and the rest, to dismiss writers and artists based on a single opinion,… Continue Reading

WI Trans Youth Study!

This is so exciting – a study of the needs of trans youth in WI. Please get the word out. WI TRANS YOUTH STUDY Are you a transgender or gender nonconforming young person living in Wisconsin? Make sure your voice… Continue Reading

Victim Blaming Dr. Dao

Now journalists are starting to dig into Dr. Dao’s past, as if some criminal history or other misdeed somehow “explains away” the violence done to him by United. This is victim blaming. I hope, if anything like this ever happens to me,… Continue Reading

Medical Treatment & Trans Youth

I have to admit that I tend to peep with one eye over any article by the NYT, or any other mainstream media, when they cover trans issues of any kind. I expect the usual disasters: trans women being referred… Continue Reading

Becoming Trans-Parent: Poems

Hey all! A local mom, Annette Langlois Grunseth, whose daughter is trans, has written a book of poetry called Becoming Trans-Parent: One Family’s Gender Transition about the experience and she’s hoping to sell a bunch more in pre-sales as that will… Continue Reading

ACLU Sues WI Over Trans Health Coverage

At long last, some good news: MILWAUKEE – The national ACLU, ACLU of Wisconsin, and volunteer attorneys from the law firm Hawks Quindel sued Wisconsin’s state university system and insurance board today over their refusal to provide gender-affirming health insurance… Continue Reading

Affirmations:: Trans Kids & Their Parents

All Men Hand in Hand

TDOV 2017

Just because it’s Trans Day of Visibility doesn’t mean you have to be visible if you can’t be or don’t want to be. You are still awesome and loved and living a life that is yours. Happy Trans Day of… Continue Reading

Help for Grammar Nerds: AP Stylebook Adds “They” as Singular Pronoun

The headline along is enough to make some grammar nerds fidget nervously: AP Stylebook Embraces ‘They’ as Singular, Gender-Neutral Pronoun. I was watching some grammar nerds – and yes, I count myself as one – discuss the difficulty of this. Two… Continue Reading

“I stand with trans people.”

I did a talk for Rainbow Over Wisconsin last night – a local org that helps fund LGBTQ projects in northeastern wisco. Here’s what I said. Someone asked me recently why it is that gay people are so political, and… Continue Reading

Music: The Traveling Suitcase

So I’ve gone to see a lot of my friends’ bands over the years, and mostly they were alright, but now I get to go see Traveling Suitcase, the band that just came back after one of the guys transitioned.… Continue Reading

Bad, Bad News from HHS

You know when a document is signed by a few of your favorite organizations (NCTE, the Task Force) you have to pay attention. Here are the highlights: President Trump this week quietly appointed anti-LGBT extremist Roger Severino as Director of… Continue Reading