River+Bay

I just got back to Appleton after driving from here to LA with my wife. I left her there to act. To leap. To take another jump at the acting career she left behind when she transitioned. As she puts… Continue Reading

LGBTQ Books for Kids

The always awesome Bear Bergman started Flamingo Rampant a while back, which is a micro press that publishes beautiful LGBTQ books for kids. Here’s a bunch of them. Right now they’re raining money to publish the next set of books… Continue Reading

For Aleppo

There are times a tragedy is too great, the violence too unspeakable, for me to make any sense of it. There is none. So I retreat in the ways Catholicism taught me to, to be quiet and solitary and, simply,… Continue Reading

Unerased: New Resource on Trans Murders

Mic has introduced a new resource for tracking the murders of trans people. It includes murders in the US since 2010, only, but it does a little more digging into the statistics and how transness is “negotiated” not just by… Continue Reading

US Trans Survey Now Out

Today, the most recent US survey of trans people is out. Tune in at 1PM EST for a live launch event. Register to watch it. Here are some of intitial findings, about bathrooms: 59% have avoided bathrooms in the last… Continue Reading

love notes for america

A colleague from Boston published a horrible letter sent to a mosque there – I’m not going to reprint it, but it was filthy and evil – and my immediate thought was to send them a letter of love, of… Continue Reading

#AlwaysNYC

Thankful

This year it is a little harder to be thankful because of the worry in my heart and in my head. I’ve had nightmares for weeks now, and I see how utterly deflated and shattered so many people I love… Continue Reading

Poetry: Revenge by e.c.c.

(I am not the poet. The poet is someone called e.c.c. Just found this one re-posted on a friend’s FB, & e.c.c.’s tumblr said you could share as long as they’re credited. So they are.) Revenge Since you mention it,… Continue Reading

Guest Author: Gwen Smith, TDOR’s Founder

From Gwen Smith, who founded Transgender Day of Remembrance back in 1999: I Remember. The 20th of November is a day set aside to honor those who we have lost due to anti-trans violence and hatred. This year, we honor… Continue Reading

Trans Day of Remembrance 2016

This is an extraordinary year for trans Americans in particular: we are at a moment in time where too many hard-won battles may be reversed in the coming years by our newly-elected federal government. While we can’t say we’ve had… Continue Reading

Help Fund My Wife’s Next Step

The person you all originally met as Betty landed an acting gig in a movie called And Then There Was Eve this past summer. I wrote a little a while back about how she’d given up acting for a long… Continue Reading

This Year’s Fun Home Lecture

There’s a little message to all of the LGBTQ+ people at the beginning of this one, around 2:47-5:30 or so.

Fuck the Fear.

Fuck the fear. I’m not having it. It is obvious tonight that America is not ready for the future, for progress, for inclusion. America just pushed back, and hard. I was born of the white working class and raised by… Continue Reading

I’m With Her #imwithher

Teaser Clip: And Then There Was Eve

The first teaser from Rachel’s movie And Then There Was Eve: Teaser!!! #indiefilm #lgbt #transisbeautiful #evethemovie #jazz #blues #relationshipdrama #filmfestival #psychologicaldrama #sandiegofilm #tanianolan #rachelcrowl #complexrelationship #independentfilm #loveislove #whatislove #busking A video posted by And Then There Was Eve (@evethemovie) on… Continue Reading

What’s Left To Do This Election

They just killed a young man in Wisconsin. In Menominee. He was attending college at a UW. He was Saudi. He died of his injuries. I don’t need to be told it was a hate crime. A father of three… Continue Reading

The Thing About Being Trans – Scott Turner Schofield

“The thing about being trans is, since the beginning, I haven’t known who I am, which makes it hard to be alive sometimes. To make decisions, to feel totally solid – at a core level. The Voice Of Gender echoes… Continue Reading

My Wife Tells That Story…

There’s a cool Moth-like event here in Appleton called StoryCatchers, and my wife volunteered to tell a story at its second happening because the theme was “the first time”. Some of you will recognize the story – of her going… Continue Reading

just saying.

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