Oh, allies, just STOP it: you don’t feel trans inside.
What you feel is a new awareness of the complexities of your own gender – that you are not 100% feminine, or masculine, or whatever.
& It really is great to try to relate to trans people – we do, all of us, have a pretty strong sense of our own genders if we allow ourselves to recognize it – but you do not feel “trans inside.”
I really do love that more & more people are getting hip to trans people, but it’s really painful to brace myself for all the dumb shit they’re going to say in the process.
Trust me: I’ve said all the dumb shit. But really, don’t own someone else’s oppression, okay?
& Right now, proto trans allies, learn how to apologize, and no buts, no explanations, no anything. Just “wow did I fuck that up. I’m so sorry.”