Sex & Disability

So happy to see someone has made a documentary about disability and sexuality:

This narrative, written by Mark O’Brian and originally published back in 1990, is stunning and important and moving and amazing.

Letting me go, she put her hands down on the bed by my shoulders and kissed my chest.

This act of affection moved me deeply. I hadn’t expected it; it seemed like a gift from her heart. My chest is unmuscular, pale, and hairless, the precise opposite of what a sexy man’s chest is supposed to be. It has always felt like a very vulnerable part of me. Now it was being kissed by a caring, understanding woman and I almost wept.

And these articles all came my way via Andrea Grieve-Smith because of this one about a madam who is in the news for wanting to start a brothel for the disabled.

2 Replies to “Sex & Disability”

  1. There was a movie made of these events with Mark O’brien. The title of the film is “The Sessions. Helen Hunt has a nomination for an Academy Award for her role as the surrogate.

  2. I have three internet friends that are transsexual and also wheelchair bound – two are transmen, and one is a transitioning MTF.

    So disability and transsexualism? In my mind, it’s not an easy life either way, but combined it’s daunting.

    I talk with them on the internet, and I will say this, it took a lot of time before any of them revealed they were challenged in any way.

    My concern is their lack of mobility, that there is such a hardship for these beautiful people to get to the therapist, to their prescribing doctors, and to be employed. The T-guys both can have their top surgery (one has already) but the MTF woman will never be allowed SRS.

    It’s heartbreaking in one way, yet inspiring in another. My meager problems somehow just melt away when talking to any of them.

    But the champion? My TS friend in my old hometown, a recovering victim of throat cancer. She is seven years full time, and two years a cancer survivor. We are talking together conspiring to find an SRS surgeon who will work with her, as she has to breathe through a stoma (opening in her throat) and this scares the anesthesiologists. Special challenges will never stop my brave Angie!

    All of you transgender with special challenges? I salute your pluck and determination! I only hope the medical profession steps up to work with your special needs.


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