http://www.myhusbandbetty.com/2008/12/16/holiday-angst/ helen boyd's journal of gender & trans issues Wed, 08 Feb 2012 01:17:33 -0500 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 http://www.myhusbandbetty.com/2008/12/16/holiday-angst/comment-page-1/#comment-56166 divadarya Tue, 16 Dec 2008 17:29:48 +0000 http://www.myhusbandbetty.com/?p=7434#comment-56166 We are spiritual cousins; very different life experiences marbled with emotions I can always immediately identify with. Holidays always bring up "count your blessings" which always triggers a cascading Pachinko machine of guilt/resentment/anger/frustration/gratitude/more guilt/more anger....etc, ad infinitum. It's only since I've been here that I realize that by being partnered with a transperson, our partners are "queer by default" whether they accept it or not, and that comes with its own load of sadness, pressures and resentments. I have a lot to be grateful for, and a long way to go; that may be the human condition in a nutshell. Thanks for sharing this with us. We are spiritual cousins; very different life experiences marbled with emotions I can always immediately identify with. Holidays always bring up “count your blessings” which always triggers a cascading Pachinko machine of guilt/resentment/anger/frustration/gratitude/more guilt/more anger….etc, ad infinitum.
It’s only since I’ve been here that I realize that by being partnered with a transperson, our partners are “queer by default” whether they accept it or not, and that comes with its own load of sadness, pressures and resentments.
I have a lot to be grateful for, and a long way to go; that may be the human condition in a nutshell.
Thanks for sharing this with us.

]]> http://www.myhusbandbetty.com/2008/12/16/holiday-angst/comment-page-1/#comment-56165 mdme.george Tue, 16 Dec 2008 06:57:50 +0000 http://www.myhusbandbetty.com/?p=7434#comment-56165 It isn't easy to not form opinions of others' decisions. Maybe the best way to deal with this is to rationalize first that this is their decision and while it may not work for you, your decisions might not work for them. One of the perks of being individuals. It isn’t easy to not form opinions of others’ decisions. Maybe the best way to deal with this is to rationalize first that this is their decision and while it may not work for you, your decisions might not work for them. One of the perks of being individuals.

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