T Shirt

Posted by – June 4, 2008

I don’t often wear trans shirts when I’m with Betty – no need to out her casually, she does enough outreach for one trans person – but Betty was sick this past week & so I was walking to my sister’s wear my NCTE “T” shirt (the old one – I don’t have the new one yet.)

Then someone on our boards asked if people would say yes if someone asked them if they were transgender.

And it made me wonder how often people think I’m trans – because of the t-shirts, the various places I post, the relative absence of partners in trans circles, and especially in LGBT circles. I think I mentioned here how two people I met at USC had assumed I was the partner of an FTM since the queer-identified partners of MTFs seem to be few & far-between – okay, practically non-existant.

It’s made me think of the days I was an honorary lesbian, which I am, still, kinda, depending on who’s deciding what I am.

I never told people I wasn’t a lesbian – unless the person was who wanted to sleep with me or a person who I wanted to sleep with – and in the same way I don’t think I’d care to clarify that I’m not trans if someone thought I was.

Maybe I should get a shirt that says GVETGI = Gender Variant Enough To Get It.

2 Comments on T Shirt

  1. angela says:

    I think you’re correct about queer-identified partners of MTFs being rare. Does this have something to do with trans-misogyny (i.e., the mistaken notion that trans women are not “real women”)? Sometimes I do feel “special” or “lucky” to have a lesbian-identified woman as my partner. Oh, and I like the GVETGI idea!

  2. Catrina says:

    Hope Betty gets better.

    Get well Betty…. We care about you

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