Gogol Bordello

If anyone is up this late, one of my recent favorite bands, Gogol Bordello, is going to be on David Letterman. They’re something like gypsy punk. More after they’re on.

Trans Partners Drop In Group

We meet tomorrow, August 1st, at 7:30PM at the LGBT Center on 13th Street. If you’re a partner of a trans person, straight gay or otherwise, do come.

Trans Partner Advocacy

Recently on our message boards, the partner of someone who was transitioning posted about her very last day with her male husband. She was sad, she was mourning, and she was feeling both loss & resentment. Sometimes the larger trans… Continue Reading

Good News

After Avalon was bought by Perseus and Perseus eliminated the Thunder’s Mouth Press imprint altogether, I was wondering – and worried – as to what would happen to My Husband Betty, since it was published by Thunder’s Mouth. Lo &… Continue Reading

It’s the Weekend

& Betty is home. Whew.

Curve Interview: Me & Julia

In Curve magazine’s current issue (Vol. 17, #8), there’s an interview with me and Julia Serano aptly titled “A Queer Three-way.” The interviewer was Curve editor Diane Anderson-Minshall.

Like an Old Man

Aeneas a little more awake, but still on the couch. He’ll get up… eventually. Or he’ll just go back to sleep.

Cleaning Resolve Dissolves

Cleaning in an air-conditioned apartment is very odd, indeed, as eventually the time comes when you have to bring a box of old books or a bag of garbage outside & then you’re hit by the wall of heat, you… Continue Reading

The Importance of Being Earnest, or Accurate, or Both

A reviewer recently misquoted me as having written that I was called a “dyke” when I was a kid, when in fact the word I used was “butch.” That mistake, while minor on the surface, has got me thinking. The… Continue Reading

Trans Scholars

I just wanted to congratulate genderwarrior & trans activist Joelle Ruby Ryan for having won a scholarship from the Point Foundation. She was one of four trans people to win one this year. The Point Foundation gives scholarships to LGBT… Continue Reading

Give ‘Em Hell, Hillbillies

Damn, they’re honking to impeach Bush in Kentucky. Kentucky, folks: a red state through & through. As Jim Pierce of The Hillbilly Report pointed out: “Mark Twain is reported to have said that ‘when the end of the world comes… Continue Reading

Not Queer Enough

There’s an event happening in San Francisco (of course) called “Not Queer Enough” on June 27th. Among the speakers are people like Max Wolf Valerio & Julia Serano. I wish I could be there. My own feelings of being “not… Continue Reading

Place in the Country

I’m traveling back from upstate New York today, having gone to a good friend’s surprise birthday dinner and of course having visited with Betty where she’s been staying and working. Sadly, she doesn’t get to come back with me. But… Continue Reading

Raised by Ants

While I was poking around project playlist last week in order to bring you a few of my favorite inspiring tracks, I found a reference to some gender-bending of the 80s. A b-side of a Dead or Alive single I… Continue Reading

Trans Couples: Mark and Violet

I was like an addict trying desperately to find love, or even the perfect relationship. But I always fell short and was disappointed. Little did I know it was never the relationship; it was the image in the mirror that… Continue Reading


Aeneas, looking groggy, since I woke him up, yet again, with the flash. A very happy birthday (tomorrow) to my sister Jeanne, too. We’ll be away for the weekend; or rather, I’ll be joining Betty upstate where she’s been working… Continue Reading

Control Freak

I decided recently that Law & Order is satisfying in some deep, weird way: like it’s evidence that there’s order in the world even when you don’t have any sense of it in your own. I was never ever interested… Continue Reading

In the Life Tonight

Our episode of In the Life airs in the NY area tonight at 10PM.

NCTE Says: Keep Calling!

NCTE has reported today that since they sent out their alert for calls to your senators to support The Local Law Enforcement Hate Crimes Prevention Act more senators have signed on to support it! So keep calling! Tell your friends… Continue Reading

Borders in Albany

Here are a couple of photos from the Borders reading up in Albany: <<< the first of me with a nice display of She’s Not the Man I Married & the second of us with a bunch >> of friends… Continue Reading