In the Meanwhile

Here’s a nice photo of us from the event at Bounce, in Cleveland. I really do feel like an idiot for not having brought our (albeit crappy) camera, at least.

Boards Down

Our community forums seem to be down temporarily. We’ll get them back up just as soon as we can.

Women & Children First

I read a few years ago at Women & Children First, and I’m happy to say I’m going back to do a reading from She’s Not the Man I Married, since it became one of my favorite bookstores in the few hours I got to visit last time around. (They’re the women’s bookstore that has a shelf of “Men’s Books.” The idea still kills me.)

  • When: Thursday, May 31st, 7PM
  • Where: 5233 N. Clark Street

Being the cool & groovy bookstore they are, they even have a list of places you can eat dinner nearby beforehand.

Chicago Be-All

The Chicago Be-All starts today, although I/we won’t be presenting until Saturday.

At 2PM Saturday, Betty will join me in talking about our experiences with transness & the media:

  • Trans Visibility & Media
    Author Helen Boyd and her partner Betty have been on The Dr. Keith Ablow show, PBS’ In the Life, and Betty was one of 7 trans people who appeared on a recent episode of “All My Children.” They will talk about their experiences working with national media and the experience of being visible – to friends, family, & the larger trans community.

Then directly after, at 3:30 PM, I’ll be doing a reading from the new book:

  • She’s Not the Man I Married
    Author Helen Boyd reads excerpts from her recently-published book, She’s Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband, & discuss why she wrote it and what it means to be an ally & partner to the trans community.

While we’re in Chicago, I’ll also be doing a reading at the Women & Children First bookstore on Thursday night, May 31st (especially useful if trans events aren’t your bag).

Amtrak, Pt. 2

We depart Cleveland tonight, or this morning, at something around 3am, depending on if the train arrives on time or not (it is, effectively, the same train we got off of Friday morning), and around 10am we’ll be in Chicago.

We went to a lovely fundraiser today for a group who are putting together a diversity conference here in Cleveland the first week of August, and I was so impressed with the idea I have to share it: it was called “A Movable Feast” and three different hosts each served a meal: one appetizers, one the main meal, & the third dessert. You sign up, pay something, the hosts provide the meals, & everyone has a good time while money is being raised for a good cause. At the third house the local City Council member was the host – an out gay man named Joe Santiago, who served in the Navy to boot. It could be a very useful way for people to host for trans issues, since you could provide safe/less public spaces to gather for those who are closeted/private/stealth, but while still providing money for a good cause & getting people to have a good time.

Thanks to all those who met up with us while we were in Cleveland, and a special thanks to Diane Frank and Alpha Omega for organizing our stay in Cleveland, for being fantastic hosts, & for coming to the many events we did.

We’re looking forward now to seeing our Chicago friends.


I had a great, “full circle” kind of moment tonight, getting a chance to hang out with a couple who were on the original CDOD list back in 2000. Amazing to be with a couple who not only survived but thrived with transness in the picture. & Thanks to you both – you know who you are.

& To everyone else who showed up at Bounce tonight – I won’t name you because I don’t now if any of you want to be named – thanks: I had a really great time. (& Do send me copies of whatever photos you took, pretty please!)

Welcoming Cleveland

I was a little surprised when our host sent me some of the information about events we’d be doing this weekend, among them a visit with Lutherans and another with a UCC congregation. Neither Betty nor myself have been involved with an organized religion for many, many years. But I’m pleased to say that two of our best experiences here in Cleveland were at those meetings: first the Lutherans Concerned on Friday night, where we had a lovely discussion about the book and trans lives, and then today at Pilgrim, where really wonderful questions were asked about how be more welcoming to trans folks & their partners.

So, if you’re Christian & trans in the Cleveland area, I can personally attest that there are people within these congregations who know from trans.

At 8PM tonight, we go to Bounce, which is a bar/nightclub, and thus much more familiar territory.

On the Borders

Yesterday, while buying a cup of tea at the Borders I was about to do a book signing in, I heard the announcement for me and my book over the store’s loudspeakers. Quite surreal, and made me realize that Betty & I didn’t bring a regular camera, much less a video camera.

Checking in from Cleveland

So far, we are having a lovely time in Cleveland: our host is as gracious as we could want, & the two events today were interesting and enjoyable. Other than our train getting in 1.5 hours late (which meant a 5am arrival!), things are going quite smoothly indeed.

For all of you who have come to events, thanks for attending. We’re looking forward to meeting the rest of you in the Cleveland area sometime this weekend.

Book Stats

According to the June Harper’s Index:

  • Minimum number of different books sold in the U.S. last year, as tracked by Nielsen BookScan: 1,446,000
  • Number of these that sold few than 99 copies: 1,123,000
  • Number that sold more than 100,000: 483

They don’t really indicate if they mean these books sold that many copies only in 2006 or if they sold that many up to & including 2006. That said, if these stats stay relatively stable from year to year, My Husband Betty and She’s Not the Man I Married are two of the 322,517 books which sold between 100 and 100k copies.

Personally, I’d like to know how many fall into the between 100 and say, 20k copies, instead.

Hello, Cleveland!

We leave on Thursday and will be on the train until very early Friday morning. Our first stop in Cleveland is Loganberry Books in Shaker Heights, Friday night, 4-6PM. Do come if you’re in that neck of the woods.

In the next couple of days we’ll be doing a few other things in the Cleveland area:

The Greeks* & Now the English

Hey, it works in the UK:

Since the British military began allowing homosexuals to serve in the armed forces in 2000, none of its fears — about harassment, discord, blackmail, bullying or an erosion of unit cohesion or military effectiveness — have come to pass, according to the Ministry of Defense, current and former members of the services and academics specializing in the military. The biggest news about the policy, they say, is that there is no news. It has for the most part become a nonissue.


“The boss said, ‘I think you will be surprised that in this day and age it will be a complete anticlimax, because as far as I’m concerned, homosexuals in the military are yesterday’s news.’ ”

From Monday’s New York Times.

* The Ancient Greeks used homoerotic and homosexual bonds to boost the morale of their military.

That One Clause

Some disturbing news about the currently pending hate crimes bill, which passed the House and is waiting to pass the Senate (& then, likely as not, will face veto from the president), is now possibly being stripped of it its gender identity clause, and once again, only a few groups (The Task Force, NOW, & PFLAG) are saying outloud that they will only support a bill that includes gender identity. Notice who’s missing? HRC. Again.

& I just got a call from them yesterday wanting me to donate, when I told them years ago I wouldn’t until they backed trans inclusion without caveat.

Thanks to Marti Abernathy for posting about this on the blog, as I’d heard unofficial word from several trans activists that this was once again the fact but was awaiting confirmation.