Comments on: Happy Hearts Day

By: VivaZoya

VivaZoya — Wed, 14 Feb 2007 21:01:23 +0000

Betty’s response to Helen’s very raw and honest entry = One of the most romantic things ever. Just saying.

By: rocketqueen

rocketqueen — Wed, 14 Feb 2007 19:56:11 +0000

We don’t celebrate it. At least, I don’t. Lu might buy me flowers or chocolate bc she feels she has to, and I appreciate it, but really I’d prefer she just come home so I can see her, instead of making a stop on the way home from work. I’d rather get flowers on a random Tuesday, or extra romance when we’re just feeling extra romantic. Or, I’d rather set aside a day that is our day. I enjoy our anniversary because it actually means something. And I wouldn’t mind putting aside an oddball holiday like secretaries day or groundhog day, and celebrating that as our arbitrary love day. In fact, I think I’d enjoy that (note to self…). But I don’t believe in allowing hallmark holidays to dictate how I should feel and when I should feel it. Valentine’s Day is just the romance version of New Year’s eve, which I also hate. It’s a set-up for failure. And though I may be convinced on occasion to go through the motions (flowers, chocolate, dinner, and sex are, of course, all good things in their own right) — I never truly engage. Maybe because I was so soured to it as a single. Maybe because I’m a non-conformist at heart. Maybe because I’m just a grinch November through February (and if I’m not careful, that period could get extended straight through to my early March birthday… but that’s okay, the Ides will perk me up )

Anyway you cut it, VDay gets an enthusiastic thumbs down from me.

But the snow is fun.

By: christinesus

christinesus — Wed, 14 Feb 2007 16:50:01 +0000

One other thing: I don’t think that love is what you get from another person. Love is what you succeed in giving to others that makes their life a little bit brighter.

By: christinesus

christinesus — Wed, 14 Feb 2007 16:48:16 +0000

Why feel rotten over a holiday? Look at it this way – God decided to give you a crack at another great day. I’m not “with” anyone, and am not very hopeful of affecting that status (on account of trans issues). Even so, I’m thankful that I was presented with the opportunity to enjoy this holiday. I cooked myself a great breakfast, and baked a loaf of homemade bread. I’m enjoying the snowfall (along with the pets), and am getting a lot of productive work done on my book. Yesterday, I had a Valentines Day dinner with an old friend who recently summoned up the courage to leave her abusive husband, and was tickled when the flowers that I gave her brought a smile to her face.

It’s true that you have more with which to cope on account of your partner’s gender issues, but there has to be a lot of reality that is just plain happy, exciting, satisfying and comforting.

Everything depends on perspective. I could easily be miserable today, but instead, I’m remembering all of the things for which I can be thankful, and am making the most of another glorious day.

Christine

By: Red

Red — Wed, 14 Feb 2007 15:38:24 +0000

DOWN WITH IT!

By: tinasim02

tinasim02 — Wed, 14 Feb 2007 15:29:37 +0000

Hugs and kisses from both of us – this made me cry as well…

By: lizzy

lizzy — Wed, 14 Feb 2007 14:35:49 +0000

oh my dear friend’s you have gone and made me cry…..

All love and kisses from Lizzy and DJ this icky slippery valentines day

By: Betty

Betty — Wed, 14 Feb 2007 05:11:20 +0000

I love you, doll.

I will be using my deepest voice and engaging in as many public displays of affection as possible. I’m so proud of you. In love with you. Happy to be with you.

If Andy Partridge can murder cupid, I can murder gender.

I love you.