Comments on: The Mad-ness of Partners http://www.myhusbandbetty.com/2006/01/23/the-madness-of-king-helen/ helen boyd's journal of gender & trans issues Wed, 08 Feb 2012 01:17:33 -0500 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Elaine http://www.myhusbandbetty.com/2006/01/23/the-madness-of-king-helen/comment-page-1/#comment-377 Elaine Tue, 24 Jan 2006 20:38:05 +0000 http://www.myhusbandbetty.com/?p=616#comment-377 Am I the only one who liked the film "Upside to Anger"? In one later scene the younger daughter reflects: “Anger and resentment can stop you in your tracks. That's what I know now. It needs nothing to burn but the air and the life that it swallows and smothers. It's real, though - the fury, even when it isn't. It can change you... turn you... mold you and shape you into something you're not. The only upside to anger, then... is the person you become. Hopefully someone that wakes up one day and realizes they're not afraid to take the journey, someone that knows that the truth is, at best, a partially told story. That anger, like growth, comes in spurts and fits, and in its wake, leaves a new chance at acceptance, and the promise of calm." Seems true to my experience. Am I the only one who liked the film “Upside to Anger”? In one later scene the younger daughter reflects:

“Anger and resentment can stop you in your tracks. That’s what I know now. It needs nothing to burn but the air and the life that it swallows and smothers. It’s real, though – the fury, even when it isn’t. It can change you… turn you… mold you and shape you into something you’re not. The only upside to anger, then… is the person you become. Hopefully someone that wakes up one day and realizes they’re not afraid to take the journey, someone that knows that the truth is, at best, a partially told story. That anger, like growth, comes in spurts and fits, and in its wake, leaves a new chance at acceptance, and the promise of calm.”

Seems true to my experience.

]]> By: Barbara http://www.myhusbandbetty.com/2006/01/23/the-madness-of-king-helen/comment-page-1/#comment-371 Barbara Tue, 24 Jan 2006 16:49:42 +0000 http://www.myhusbandbetty.com/?p=616#comment-371 Sort of off-topic, but lizzy's last sentence got to me. I never thought I would get used to needing someone. And then I found someone. And much too soon afterward, I lost my someone. And after all these years, I can't get used to needing and not having someone. To all those out there who have someone, please count your blessings. Sort of off-topic, but lizzy’s last sentence got to me.

I never thought I would get used to needing someone. And then I found someone. And much too soon afterward, I lost my someone. And after all these years, I can’t get used to needing and not having someone. To all those out there who have someone, please count your blessings.

]]> By: lizzy http://www.myhusbandbetty.com/2006/01/23/the-madness-of-king-helen/comment-page-1/#comment-370 lizzy Tue, 24 Jan 2006 02:23:02 +0000 http://www.myhusbandbetty.com/?p=616#comment-370 Yes, being angry about one thing a long time, gets you angry about everything. I used to be able to let go of anger, I know it only harms me. The thought about anger and sadness distilling down to fear, is, for me true. The list of stuff I'm afraid of is way long....... and I hate it that I can't seem to pull myself out like I used to. DJ is my one last good chance, I have to get it right this time, I just don't have it in me to re invent myself again and start over. Besides I'm in love with my husband, and that scares the shit out of me. I am not used to needing someone. Yes, being angry about one thing a long time, gets you angry about everything.
I used to be able to let go of anger, I know it only harms me. The thought about anger and sadness distilling down to fear, is, for me true.
The list of stuff I’m afraid of is way long……. and I hate it that I can’t seem to pull myself out like I used to.
DJ is my one last good chance, I have to get it right this time, I just don’t have it in me to re invent myself again and start over.
Besides I’m in love with my husband, and that scares the shit out of me.
I am not used to needing someone.

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