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Thanks for posting this.

Love your post!

I’ve tried, since the beginning of our marriage, to make my crossdressing fun for my wife. Because as you say, I realized from the getgo that if she didn’t enjoy it, she didn’t participate in it, maybe she wouldn’t accept it. And there I’d be, without anyone’s validation whatsoever, just like when I was single and very, very alone, scared, and in the closet.

When I was contemplating marriage to her, like many naive CDers, I assumed that crossdressing was ALL sexual. So now that I was finally in love for real, for keeps, my crossdressing desires would be done. hahaha! Wonder of wonders, it worked for a while! Until we’d been married for about a year. Then came a bout of impotence and urges to crossdress.

Well, I sure didn’t want to divorce her! So, how about a little crossdressing in the bedroom? When I suggested it, I was afraid the sky would fall. She wasn’t initially excited about it, but willing to give it a try. And surprise, she got into it. The happy ending was that the impotence was history. So, for that matter, were the purges that characterized CDing in my single years.

Fast forward 25 years to the present. I’m now in my mid-50s. Been full time for 5 years. Just started phytoestrogens (with her permission). Now wait a minute, someone will ask, isn’t that backwards? Doesn’t Harry Benjamin say start the hormones first and then do the real life test?

Well, I’m hear to tell you, that if someone is seriously thinking of following the course you suggest, they can kiss Harry Benjamin good bye! Those “standards” never envisioned transpeople staying married, transitioning for two, one might say. Dr. Paul Walker, who wrote them, was a personal friend of mine. He was gay. He never imagined people like me. He never imagined a society like ours where this kind of thing is possible. It is a new world!

Today’s trans people are going to be writing their own standards–the Rikki Chunn Standards, the Betty Crow Standards, the John Smith Standards, etc. And why not? We’re hardly cookie cutter models of anyone but ourselves. And if that’s not at all out of the question, then it’s really not much more of a stretch to write the Rikki and Nancy Standards, that have just as much room for Nancy and her comic book collection, as for Rikki and her gender journey. Throw in two careers, a house, a family of teddy bears etc. and you have standards that Paul Walker never dreamed of. But (and you’ll have to trust me on this), Paul would have loved them. May he rest in peace!

Hugs,
Rikki